Of forgiveness, mercy and love—those elements of grace which each of us needs—I believe that forgiveness is the most difficult. To offer forgiveness, one must be willing to forego justice, thereby imparting mercy as well. There lies within each of us a scale of justice, measuring the weight of each act, seeking balance. Forgiveness removes the weights and negates the scale.
It is easier by far to forgive another than it is to truly forgive oneself. We know all the transgressions, the omissions, the desires, the truth of who we are. I was able to attain a state of peace even amidst life’s turmoil when I fully acknowledged God’s forgiving love and understood His acceptance for who I am. It took a long time. Knowing God’s forgiveness gave me the ability to forgive myself for that ever-growing list of sinful behaviors. I am free, not so much to sin—although I do—but to share that grace.
Therein lies the secret of God’s love: it is not intended to be a weapon with which we wage war on one another or within; it is a powerful magnet that pulls in not only the weak and broken but the strong and vibrant too. For within its grip we are all intimately connected, equal and whole.